I have just spent the last 45 minutes colouring in.
I know! Who has time to do that in the middle of the day? We’re all far too busy, right?
And therein lies the problem.
Nowadays, we’re all too busy to take time out to do things for ourselves.
I admit that it makes a difference when you work from home and you work for yourself – like me. I can’t imagine anyone who works for someone else telling their boss that they’re taking a bit of time out to do some colouring in, or meditating, or crocheting – whatever it is that you like to do when you relax. But everyone has a choice. And there are times when you could quite easily choose to do something that you really want to do rather than something you think you should be doing.
I have a friend who is always telling me about the things she would love to do. She would love to knit, crochet, watch a film, blog, sit down and read a book for an hour… When I ask her why she’s not doing these things she tells me she doesn’t have the time. She tells me she’s far too busy working, cooking, cleaning and so on, to waste time doing things for herself. How sad is that? She feels that doing the things that make her happy is a waste of time!
It’s really important to do the things in life that you love. Doing the things we love makes us happy and when we’re happy, we’re nicer people. When we’re doing things we enjoy doing rather than things we feel forced into, we’re more likely to practice mindfulness and, unless you’ve been living under a rock for the last few years, you know how beneficial mindfulness is to our wellbeing.
Sometimes, finding excuses to avoid doing stuff that makes us happy becomes a habit. We feel guilty about taking time out to do something enjoyable. We think that people will judge us or think we’re lazy if we’re ‘caught’ reading or crafting or watching a romcom in the middle of the afternoon. I mean, what sort of person does that when they could be hoovering, dusting, washing dishes, changing beds and checking the gym kits are ready for the next day? Ummm…hello! *waves*
I’m not suggesting that we stop doing the mundane, every day things in life. What I am suggesting though is that if something isn’t urgent and you don’t feel like doing it because you’d rather be doing something for yourself, don’t do it. Do it later. Delegate it. Give yourself permission to leave it so that you can do something that makes you happy.
Make a point of taking some time to yourself every day to do the things that you enjoy doing.
And if you find yourself worrying about what other people will think, forget them. They are judging you by their standards and they could probably do with taking more time out themselves.
And if you feel guilty even just thinking about doing stuff for yourself, you need to start giving yourself permission to live life on your terms. Just because you’re a mum, sister, wife, daughter, doesn’t mean that you don’t have your own life to lead and your own needs to attend to.
And so, right now, give yourself permission to do the things in life that you really want to do. Give yourself permission to take time out just for you regardless of your circumstances. And, above all, let go of the guilt. You have nothing to feel guilty about.
And before I go, if you would love to try some colouring in, you’ll find a huge selection of adult colouring books here (AL).
And, in case you’re wondering what I was colouring in today, it’s part of my awesome business vision for 2017 that I’m doing along with The Girl’s Mean Business.
Here’s what I’ve done so far.