I can’t believe that we’re already one week into 2017 and I’m only just getting round to writing my first blog post of the year.
So far this year everyone at Cupcake Cottage has been struck down with a flu-type virus and my mum-in-law ended up in hospital – TWICE! I couldn’t make it up!!
Things are gradually getting back to normal now though and I thought it was time to drop in and wish you all a Happy New Year!
So…Happy New Year!
Setting Personal Goals
Normally, at this time I’d be busy making new-year resolutions and setting goals for the coming year. However, this year, I’ve decided to do something different.
I’ve decided that I’m not setting personal goals.
I haven’t gone completely mad because I’ll still be setting goals for my businesses but for me, personally, 2017 is going to be goal-less.
You see, I want my personal focus to be on less tangible things this year. Most of you probably know that, in order for goals to work, they have to be S.M.A.R.T. – Specific, Measurable, Achievable, Realistic and Time-Bound. S.M.A.R.T goals let you know exactly what needs to done and when it needs to be done by. It also lets you know when you actually get to where you want to be. The problem with S.M.A.R.T personal goals though is that sometimes you spend so much time focussing on what needs to be done to achieve those goals, you forget to live. You forget to enjoy life. You miss out on doing the things that make you happy because you’re too busy looking to the future. And I don’t want to do that this year. I would much rather spend time doing more of things I love in life.
And so, some of the things I’m going to do this year are:
- Spend more time taking meaningful photographs
- Work on forming new friendships and creating stronger bonds with existing friends
- Incorporate more fun, joy and laughter into my life
- Add more creativity into each day
- Get out and explore Scotland more
- Eat, shop and spend locally
- Read more
- Stop feeling guilty about spending time doing the things that make me happy
- Learn to trust my own instinct and stop looking to others for approval
- Spend more time in Nature
A Goal By Any Other Name
As you can probably see, the things I want to do don’t really fit the S.M.A.R.T. model and I’m happy with that.
I’m not going to state how many photographs I intend to take this year. I ‘m certainly not going to aim for a particular number of new friendships by a certain time. Nor am I going to choose which friendships will become stronger.
I know some people might say that what I’m doing is setting goals anyway. The only difference being I’m not specific about what it is I want to achieve. However, I don’t see it like that. I’m not going to say when I’m going to do these things, how I’m going to get there and how I’ll know when I’ve got there, because I don’t want to focus purely on the outcome. Instead, I want to enjoy the journey.
In 2017 I want my life to be more spontaneous. I want to know that I’ve improved as a person and that I feel more fulfilled. My aim is to get to the end of the year knowing that my life has been enhanced in some way either through friendships, creativity, etc. or a combination of all of the above. What I don’t want to feel at the end of this year is the feeling of disappointment brought on my not managing to hit certain targets or achieve all my goals. I’m quite sure most of you know what that feels like.
However, despite not setting goals in stone, I would still like to know that the things I do are in some way adding value to my life and the way that I intend to monitor this is by journalling. This is something I’ve wanted to do for ages but I’ve just never got round to it. I think it’s because it always sounds way more difficult than it really is (a bit like meditation).
It can’t be that difficult though because I’m sure most of us have already journaled at some time our lives. I used to do it when I was a teenager only, in those days, it was called ‘keeping a diary’. Do you remember? You wrote down your innermost thoughts – mostly about boys, your current best friend and the awfulness of parents – and then hid your diary away praying that no-one would ever find it thus accessing your deepest, darkest secrets. They inevitably did though which resulted in several weeks of lying down to die (due to the shame and embarrassment) whilst clutching a lace handkerchief to your fevered brow. Miraculously though we always survived…and I’m
positive pretty sure fairly certain it won’t be like that nowadays…
Anyway, I’ve been reading up on ‘modern day’ journalling and I’ll be writing some future blog posts on this topic for anyone who may want to try it for themselves so watch this space.
…that’s about it really. My first blog post of the year all about how I’m not going to be setting personal goals for myself in 2017.
What do you think about personal goal-setting?
Is it something you feel you can’t get through life without or would you rather just muddle along and see where life takes you?
Have you had experience of setting so many goals you forgot to live in the moment?
Have you had experience of NOT setting goals then ended up feeling as though you didn’t achieve anything?
Let me know in the comments.
Until the next time,