I have been on a journey. In fact, to tell you the truth, I’m still on that journey but it’s not a literal journey where I’m travelling to far flung and exotic places (unfortunately), it’s a metaphorical journey; a journey of the mind.
Something in my life hasn’t been right for the past two years or so. During that time I felt as though I had lost all sense of purpose and direction as far as my life went. Things that made perfect sense to me before, suddenly seemed trivial and no longer in tune with who I was as a person. People took great delight in telling me that I was starting a mid-life crisis. A mid-life crisis?? I took great delight in telling them I was far too young for that nonsense but apparently I’m not. It seems that a ‘mid-life crisis’ can hit at any age and so, at the beginning of this year, I decided it was time to re-evaluate my life.
I began by looking at all the things that related to my life – jobs, hobbies, friendships, etc – and, in my wisdom, I decided that the solution to my problem was to pack even more into my already busy life and so I began racing around looking for new things to do and new projects to get involved in. I got myself some coaching, I re-started my distributorship with Forever Living Products, I joined a brand new network marketing company, I joined an affiliate marketing company and…wait for it…I set up two new businesses. Did any of this help? Absolutely not! In fact, all that happened was, on top of everything else, I became stressed to the hilt.
But, quite by chance, I made a discovery. I discovered Taoism and mindfulness within a few days of each other and I was so blown away by the things I read, I knew that this was what I had been looking for for a very long time. I bought books and watched videos. I researched articles on both those ways of life and I read almost every blogpost that’s ever been written about them and, for the first time in years, I felt like I was coming home. This may sound a bit cheesy and believe me, if someone had suggested that something like Taoism and ‘living in the present’ could be just what I needed, I would have laughed and shook my head but actually, my life is turning around. I feel more empowered and more grounded. I’m not saying that everything is perfect and I know there’s a long way to go but I can now see where I was going wrong and how things can be fixed. Not only that, a few weeks ago I signed up for a course run by the wonderful Jodi Chapman from Soul Speak. The course is called ‘Coming Back To Life‘ and is all about ‘reconnecting to our soul, the universe, and the present moment’ and this six week course could not have come at a better time. I’m quite sure it was meant as I only found out about it and registered at the very last minute and incredibly, the course content sits perfectly with what I would like to achieve as I journey along the ‘path to enlightenment’ 😉
I have spent most of my life living somewhere between the middle and the fast lane of life’s motorway. Always getting involved in new things, needing to be places, helping other people, doing things that other people wanted me to do, a to-do list as long as my arm, grabbing something to eat and eating it on the run, trying to keep my social media accounts up to date, always setting new goals and working towards achieving goals that were already set…but I now see that life doesn’t have to be like that. Between the course and my reading, research and learning, I now see that if I spend more time taking care of me, I’m in a better position to take care of other people around me. I have learned that if I were to continue at the pace I was going, I would reach total burnout in the not too distant future. I am now learning to slow things down and to live in the moment. I am learning to live life in the slow lane – and I am loving it!
So, my aim is to make Cupcakes and Cadenzas much more about living life in the slow lane. There will be posts about slowing down and re-connecting, posts about taking time to enjoy life and the wonderful things around us, posts about being more creative and finding your creativity and posts about generally living life at a slower pace.
So, do you ever feel that life is going too fast and is in danger of overtaking you completely?
Do you prefer the fast-paced life or would you too like to start ‘Living Life in the Slow Lane’?
Have you already found a way of slowing down, re-connecting and really living your life way you want ?
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