I’m not sure what you think when you hear the word ‘mediocre’ but, for me, it’s one of those words that does nothing whatsoever to inspire me. For me, it falls into the same category as satisfactory, average, nice, passable and …adequate and, let’s be honest, I doubt any of us would want to hear those words used to describe our lives. However, it’s a sad fact that, for most of us, mediocre is exactly what our lives will be. Yep, that’s right. Very few of us will ever be anything more than mediocre.
Now, many people are happy to settle for mediocre and that’s fine. It’s entirely up to them. Not everyone is cut out to be anything more than that and, in fact, some people are happy to simply exist. Equally, there are lots of people in the world who would give anything for their lives to be as good as mediocre because sadly, anything more than that just isn’t an option however, for those of us who are in a position to do something about it, surely we owe it to ourselves to live the best lives we possibly can with the resources we have available to us.
I was on a Lisa Nicholls training session when I first heard that most people’s lives will never be anything more than mediocre and at first I was shocked to hear this. I was shocked because it had never occurred to me that this was the case. The more I thought about it though, the more I realised that it actually is the case. When I looked back over my years of working as a performance coach, I remembered how many people were happy to settle for average or mediocre or quite good and how few people were prepared to put in the work that was needed for them to excel in their chosen profession. And then I was sad. I was sad because I thought of all the people in the world who have real potential and who would give anything to excel and shine and really be someone but would never get the chance to do so because of circumstances outwith their control. And then I began to wonder why so many people are happy to settle for anything less than amazing.
Why We Settle For Less Than We Deserve
We know that people give up on their dreams and goals because they are afraid of failing or of being ridiculed or they somehow feel that they’re inadequate in some way and therefore not deserving of success.
We know that people are afraid to really let their light shine out because, in their heads, they’re sure that, one day, someone will find out that they’re not who or what they say they are.
We know that people hold back from doing all the things they’ve ever wanted to do in life because someone, somewhere along the line told them they couldn’t.
But are these the only reasons for us living a life less than we deserve? Could there be other things holding us back from doing all the things we’ve ever wanted to do? Could it be that we’re afraid of being too successful; afraid that we won’t be able to cope with being anything more than mediocre; afraid that people’s feelings towards us will change if our lives become filled with prosperity and happiness and abundance? And if those are the reasons we hold back, are they good enough reasons for us to simply settle for what we have rather than striving for the things that, deep down, we desire more than anything in the world?
I don’t think so.
Why Mediocrity Shouldn’t Be An Option
I believe we owe it to ourselves to live the most fabulous and amazing lives that we can with the resources we have available to us. I believe that we’re doing ourselves a great disservice by simply accepting our lot and settling for mediocre. I believe that, in living the best lives we can, we will inspire and motivate others to do the same, thus causing a ripple effect throughout future generations.
So, starting today, set an intention to live the life you know you truly deserve. Do all the things you’ve ever wanted to do. Visit all the places you’ve ever wanted to visit. If you want to dance in the rain – do it! If you want to learn to play the piano – do it! If you’ve always dreamed of starting your own business – do it! If finding a toy-boy is your thing – go for it! No-one has ever gone down in history because they lived an ‘adequate’ life.
I’ll leave you with this beautiful quote from the amazing Marianne Williamson which I think sums this up perfectly.
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves ‘Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented and fabulous?’ Actually, who are you not to be?” ~Marianne Williamson.
Are you living the life you always dreamed of living or have you simply settled because it seemed like the easy option?
Did you make a conscious decision at some point in your life that mediocrity just wasn’t going to be an option?
Is this something that’s been praying on your mind for some time?
As always, let me know your thoughts.